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It’s been a long time coming, with glitches and scheduling delays galore, but Loopy Stanley is finally here!  We had participants this year from two cities in North Dakota (though if you counted the towns each individual student came from, we really had more like 9 towns in the state represented) PLUS participants from Melbourne Australia!! My students were SO excited to be able to share Loopy Stanley internationally, so we’re very proud to be able to finally present to you… Loopy Stanley 2013!

Loopy Stanley 2013 – World Premiere!! (Clicking will Open Video in New Tab)

You may notice some of the same visual “timing” glitches as the promotional video – this was my first year crossing over with Apple and PC products (while last year’s Loopy Stanley began on the Ipad, everything else was done on PC, this year I became the owner of an Iphone and the iMovie app, and everything changed, including how videos were shot and edited!) so there’s lots to learn for next year, but it was a pleasure being able to improvise around this well-known melody to form such a positive association for my Deaf students between music and socialization, and for my Blind students to be able to explore their own musicality in a fun and engaging way.  We hope that you enjoyed the video and will consider joining us in 2014 – the more the merrier!

Coming up soon on the blog there may well be another hiatus, as World Bellydance Day and my first ever Board Re-Certification Cycle approaches (eek!) but you better believe I’ll have plenty to share when those two events come to pass – LOTS of cool things going on in this busy Music Therapist’s life – wouldn’t have it any other way!

Happy Spring!!

“It’s the most _________ time of the year!”

Many of us think of the song containing the above phrase and insert the word “wonderful” in the blanks.  But the holidays are so much more than that – and not always in a good way!  This time of year can be busy, tiring, and downright stressful for some, if not all of us, and with stress for many of the clients I work with, comes misbehavior.  Refusing to follow directions and all out tantrums abound.  Some of these misbehaviors are within my clients’ control, some of them are due to overstimulation and may be beyond the clients’ ability to self regulate.  No matter what the situation, how I react is key.  Any one misbehavior has the potential to turn into an all out battle of wills depending on how I choose to respond to it.

During my internship I was encouraged to take a course on something called “Conscious Discipline,” a self-regulation program for parents and educators created by early childhood specialist Dr. Becky Bailey.  When I describe Conscious Discipline to others, I call it “part common sense, mixed with a lot of patience, a great deal of listening, and a little intuition.”  Educators and parents can take classes from Dr. Bailey herself (in persion or via video) or from instructors that have been certified under her.  I’ve applied strategies found in Conscious Discipline to everything from my preK clients to colleagues and parents – the tools Dr. Bailey provides are worth checking out! What I love most about Conscious Discipline is that it’s evidence based, but easy for the average layperson to understand.  There are all kinds of books and materials put out there by Dr. Bailey (check out her resources page here for tidbit tips to use on the go), but one of my favorites is an audio recording I have of a presentation she did on power struggles.  In it she makes 3 main suggestions I keep with me at all times, and find particularly useful to remember during the holidays:

1. Recognize the signs of a power struggle early, and pick your battles.  Is the behavior harmfully disruptive to the client or others around them or is it just irritating?  If it’s just irritating, let it go by practicing “extinction:” just ignore it, no matter how the student might push you to respond to it.

2. If you can’t avoid a powerstruggle, remember to keep breathing and monitor your own feelings – accept them for what they are and then choose your actions carefully, keeping in mind that your counterpoint in the power struggle may not be able to do the same.  It may even be necessary for you to say “I think we both may need to take a break right now, let’s talk about this later” and then do just that.  Walk away or ask some nearby staff (or another parent) to escort your client/child to another location while you both cool down.

3. Another positive tool to use in power struggles is to offer choices.  When you tell someone “You can do this or that, you choose,” they are more likely to cooperate with you than if you just tell them “you can’t do that” without making any suggestions as to what they can do instead.  Power struggles gain their strength from the polarization of the two partieis involved.  If you take that polarization away, then you weaken the struggle.  Note that I said you weaken the struggle, and not the other party.  Offer them real suggestions, not just those designed to get you what you want.  For example, if a client is refusing to give up an instrument they’re supposed to be passing to their neighbor, you can offer them the choice of who it goes to (“you can hand it to that person or this person”), rather than stating that they just “hand it over.”

At the heart of every power struggle is the need for validation.  Clients and therapists, parents and children, colleagues, friends, and children, all need to feel like their feelings have value and are taken seriously.  When you can present choices, a general respect for space, and recognize when the battle is not worth fighting, what you’r really saying to your client or child is “I hear you, and while I may not understand now, I respect your right to feel what you feel and ask only that you do so in a way that respects my right as well.”  Note that you ask them to act in a way that respects your right to your feelings, you don’t ask them to respect your feelings themselves.  That’s not within your control.  We all come to the table with unique experiences that shape who we are and how we react to certain things.  I, for instance in the last month have attended 2 funerals and narrowly avoided having to attend a third, so there are topics that are touchy for me that coworkers of mine may have noticed, and I may never tell them why.  I have clients for whom I avoided asking about the recent Thanksgiving holiday because I knew that spending time with their family may not have been a positive experience for them.  We all come to the table with things we may never share but that influence how we react to and interact with the world around us.  All that any of us can ever do in such emotionally charged times is be patient and respectful of each others’ space and need to feel valued in this world.

So, go forth and be patient! How’s that for a holiday message? Wishing you and yours a very patient holiday season :-)

Hello and Happy July!  Hard to believe our last post was all the way at the end of MAY – quite the schedule I’ve been under lately, but so much fun information to share!  As I type this, we’re preparing for our first ever Braille Music Institute at the North Dakota School for the Blind, which I’ll be sharing more about as we get further into the week, but over the last month, my attention has been dedicated to something completely different: English Language Learners, also known as individuals learning English as a Second Language, or ESL Learners.  My work with this population came out of an experiment started last year by the popular Summer Performing Arts Company (SPA), which engages young students in the Grand Forks community from kindergarten through their highschool years in the performing arts (theatre, music, and dance).  Last year, the program pioneered their first ever sections of SPA specialized for ESL students (called ELL SPA) and students with Special Needs (which was called MY SPA).  I was fortunate enough to be asked to facilitate some drumming activities for ELL SPA at that time, and it was enough of a hit that they wanted me back this summer, this time to coordinate the whole of the ELL SPA program – quite an undertaking to be sure, but it’s been a tremendous learning and growing experience for me and one I hope to embark on again and again with these wonderful students as often as they’ll let me in future years!

The students in my two sections of ELL SPA (we met from 8am to 10:15, and 10:30 to 12:30) totaled 34 in number, with 30 of them from Nepal.  Our community has seen a huge influx in the number of refugees coming from Nepal, and some of the students I worked with had been in the country less than 2 months before starting our program, which ran from May 29th through the 3rd of July.  During the 2 hours I had each group for over the course of the month, we worked on everything from learning to play rhythms on the drums and chords on the guitar to writing a play, creating costumes and designing a set, and putting together a video presentation of their final performance to show everyone in the last week.  Our goals were to help students develop an understanding of the English Language and American culture through the performing arts, as well as provide them with opportunities for social interaction through sharing their own cultures with us and participating in activities that took them out of their own comfort zone and forced them to work together to achieve success.  One favorite game of our students for achieving this last goal was “The Blob.”  In this version of tag, one person is deemed “The Blob,” and tasked with chasing everyone else in the group.  When “The Blob” manages to reach someone and touch them, that person has to connect to them (either by linking arms or holding hands) and then together they have to tag the next person, who connects to them, and so on, and so on, until you have a giant “Blob” in which all members of the group are eventually “assimilated.”  We played this game in a large library (amazingly, without any major injuries – there were times when I wasn’t sure it was such a good idea!) but the game can also be played in small circles, with the movement of the group limited to small shuffling steps, or by blindfolding the members of the “Blob.”  Adaptations abound and the game is great fun to work on team work, while addressing issues of personal boundaries and freedom of movement.

This group was also the first one where my expertise in Bellydance was really able to combine with my job as a Music Therapist.  Many of my Nepali students were very interested in Bollywood, or East Indian Dance, which many Bellydancers study, so we had several “dance days” where I would bring in my hipscarves and props, and we would teach each other all the moves we knew, boys and girls alike, taking turns plugging our phones and other music-playing-devices into the speakers we were provided, and just enjoying the community of sharing with each other in music.  Those are days I’m going to miss for sure!

At the end of the summer, students shared that some of their favorite activities were the same as mine: playing games like the “Blob,” dancing in the library, and learning rhythms and chords to songs like Greenday’s Boulevard of Broken Dreams.  Many of them stated that they were proud of the work they had done, and I would have to agree with them as well: I was tremendously proud of all we were able to do in one short month, but above all it was my honor to be part of such an amazing group of international students, share in learning about their culture’s customs and traditions (and FOOD! Never again will I assume that salads can’t be spicy!)  All in all, this was a very new experience for me, but one I can’t imagine having a summer without!

I know I’ll be able to say the same about our Braille Music Institute coming up this week – students are just arriving now, and our special guest Bill McCann of Dancing Dots is hard at work preparing a demonstration of some of the software they’ll be learning to use to create music in both Print and Braille this week.  Already, I love the sound of sweet music coming from every corner of the building, from the Technology room to the Commons area – it may be a little hectic, but I wouldn’t have it any other way!

The other day I was introduced to video of a Deaf Rapper, who goes by the name of Signmark, performing at NYU (you can find the video here).  In the video, a young Music Therapy student says something that really caught my attention:

“I hope that what [people] get from events like this, is not just knowing that people who are Deaf like Music, but people who are Deaf have this huge culture that we’ve not really understood or paid attention to.”

Many of us have heard the phrase “Deaf Culture”, and thought it just to be a community of people who are Deaf, but that is only partially true.  The reason for the use of the word “Culture” is more appropriate than we give it credit for here – there really is a Culture of beliefs and practices unique to the world of people who identify themselves as Deaf that doesn’t exist in our hearing world.  As such, interactions may literally seem “foreign” to those of us outside of it, but while I think that may lead some folks to believe that people who are Deaf don’t enjoy the same things hearing people do – music in particular – it couldn’t be further from the truth!

Have you ever heard the phrase “Music is Universal?”

I always like to define my personal take on this phrase to people as, Music is “universal” in the sense that every culture has a musical language, but it is not “universal” in the sense that all cultures use the same language – I believe every culture has its own unique way of expressing itself through music, and that those ways may not necessarily translate between each other in a way that any person from any culture can understand the music of any other one.  Let’s apply this to Deaf Culture.  In the hearing world, music is something we primarily hear and listen to – the rise of music videos  recently (as in, the last 20 years “recently”) have made music something we enjoy seeing too, but overall the music that is popular today always involves a vocalist – we find and identify artists who resonate with us based on the lyrics that come out of their mouths and they way that they vocally express themselves – that is our musical language.  In Deaf Culture, music relies less on what we listen to, and more on what we see and feel.  Though individuals who are Deaf also look to a song’s lyrics to identify with the artist performing them, they see, rather than hear, the words performed in ASL (American Sign Language) – that is their language. One thing is certain, though, even if a person is profoundly Deaf, they can feel the beat in their own bodies just as truly as someone who is hearing does.

When I showed my students at the ND School for the Deaf (NDSD) the video of Signmark performing with his vocal interpreter, in addition to one of his own music videos you can find here, they first greeted it with confusion.  One of them even asked me “How did he learn to sign so fast?”  thinking that Signmark was interpreting his interpreter! When I told them that Signmark was Deaf, and that he was the one being interpreted, the students reacted with such excitement!  Here was an artist they could officially call “theirs,” someone who not only came from, but shared with the world, their culture in just as cool a way as all the artists they had heard of day in and day out in their mainstream schools, but had long struggled to understand.

So, what was my role in all this?  As a hearing person, I first of all recognize that I will always be on the fringes of Deaf Culture – someone who is very close to it, but still truly on the outside looking in.  So, I see myself and the Music Program at NDSD as a bridge to help close the gap between my students’ existing musical understanding and the culture of music that exists both within and outside of themselves and their own culture.  My youngest students start with extra time spent learning songs like “Twinkle Twinkle” and the “ABC’s,” songs that are so familiar to us growing up, but that teachers and parents often avoid with children who are Deaf because they think they won’t get anything out of it – but they do!  There are so many academic concepts included in music, and no matter how profound the hearing loss, children still enjoy the feeling of a beat.  You can sing the song while they hold a hand to your neck to feel the air forming the sound of your voice, or tap a beat on a drum that they can feel and share in the making of music to as well.  The older my students get, the more we focus on the phenomena of music itself, how artists have helped shape the history of our country and the cultures within it, including Deaf culture.  Learning about artists like Signmark are good for us hearing folks too, to recognize how far people who are Deaf have come and struggled to be recognized as having the same creative and intuitive prowess that any other person has, as they’ve always had, but haven’t always been recognized.  It’s humbling to say the least, but it’s a lesson anybody can learn – you can never assume that the people you interact with in this world, no matter their ability or disability, have or don’t have the same understandings as you do – that’s why the constant pursuit of knowledge and creative expression is so important.

To that end, it’s been my exciting pleasure to be on what I consider to be a Continuing Education Cruise, with lots of presentations this past month (and more to come!) on Music Therapy in the field of both Visual and Hearing impairment – it’s been a pleasure to share with events like the Dakota Chapter AER conference and the ND School for the Blind’s Family Weekend this past Saturday, talking to people about what Music Therapy is and how it can help them, and I look forward to sharing more in places like Kat Fulton’s Music Therapy Ed, which debuts July 1st (and you better believe when that website opens, I’ll be there taking a class or two as well as teaching one!)  It’s the true mark of a good field when it requires those who practice it to be constantly reinforcing and building their education with continued coursework and proof of progress.  It’s my joy to be able to say I choose a good one!

In the next few weeks, we’ll look more closely at some of my work with Adults who have Developmental Delays and Family Music Groups for Infants and Toddlers.  Until then, if you’re in the Grand Forks area, stop by 12 Houses for our Drum Circle Saturday, April 28th, at 7pm, or come take in a family-friendly, full costume and lights performance by 12 Houses Bellydance May 11th at the Firehall Theatre – if you aren’t in the area, take in a live performance or active music making experience near you – even better if it’s a little something you hadn’t heard of before!

Hello and welcome December!  Welcome to any new readers as well – last week I posted a recap of the American Music Therapy Association’s National Conference.  Something I neglected to mention in that post was that during and after conference my Twitter Handle @MusicMovesND saw an increase of about 25 new followers – I definitely had plenty to be thankful for this Thanksgiving! New followers, a long relaxing weekend with family and friends, and an early Christmas gift I’ll be posting about here very soon as we prepare for Music Moves’ 1 year anniversary in the blogosphere!  Much to be thankful for indeed…

As an individual employed in a helping profession, as many people in jobs like mine are prone to do, I often get caught up in the “doing” part of my job – getting from point A to point B, making sure I get paperwork done in a timely fashion, and I forget sometimes about the “being” part of my job – taking time to facilitate relaxation and regeneration, not only for my clients, but for myself.  I always make sure to allow my clients non-musical “breaks” in the session, to stand and stretch, or use one of their other senses in silence.  If you think about it, silence is technically part of music too – it’s part of the rhythmic structure.  If you’re a singer or someone who plays an instrument that requires breath, silence is necessary to make music. Remembering the importance of silence applies to life as well: silence and stillness.  It’s important to take a moment to even just stop moving for a second or two each day, to check in with yourself physically and otherwise, so that you can take care of yourself, and ultimately take better care of the people around you.  If you aren’t taken care of, then nobody is.  You have to secure your own health before you can assist in the needs of others.

That said, as many of you have been learning lately (either through blog posts here on the topic or here in our local paper) in addition to my work as a Music Therapist, I teach and perform Bellydance.  This is part of my “Self Care.”  It’s something I do to ensure that I am taking care of myself.  I chose Bellydance for many reasons, 3 of which I hope you’ll find valuable in finding or evaluating your own method of caring for yourself, whether it’s Bellydance or something else!

Reasons why I Bellydance:

1. Dance is related to my day job, but not bound to it.  What I mean by this is that Bellydance is nowhere in my job description as Music Therapist at the School for the Blind, School for the Deaf, or any of the other places I serve.  Yet movement is part of what I do with my clients, and music is definitely an important part of dance, so the two disciplines are close enough to each other that I have been able to draw from my knowledge of music to feed my learning of the dance, and funnel what I learn from dancing back into what I do in my every day use of music.

2. Dance is social.  While not everything I do for selfcare (yes, I do recommend having more than one thing you do for yourself each day!) is social, dancing is – when I perform, I like to do it with other Bellydancers, and I love attending workshops and teaching the things I learn to other students as eager to learn and share as I am.  When I began Bellydancing, I actually took it up during my internship with one specific goal being to meet new people.  I recommend having at least one self-care action that allows you to do this, so that you can have relationships that help you balance in that place between your personal and professional life.

3. Bellydance is ever changing.  The other reason I took up the art form during my internship was because I wanted to learn something new tooI’m constantly finding new facets of the dance that I never knew existed, and I love that about it.  I mentioned above that Bellydance helps to feed my work as a Music Therapist.  This is part of why it does that too, not just that it’s related to my day job, but that it’s an endless trove of history and things to learn.

I mentioned above that silence is a part of music, and that silence and stillness was important.  The person who told me that was actually a fellow Bellydancer.  She talked about the simplicity of Egyptian dancing, and how we can emphasize emotion in music with even the slightest of motions, or none at all.  I love that about dancing, just as I love that about singing: the ability to say more than words can express.

At the last 12 Houses Hafla (“Hafla” is Arabic for “Party”) I performed a piece that I considered to be a little tribute to all the clients I serve.  It’s called “I need a Doctor” and is performed by Dr. Dre featuring Eminem.  I leave this blog post with a link here to my performance (and a little disclaimer for any traditionalist Bellydancers out there: I like to think outside the box sometimes – this choreography is my own take on Persian and Tribal Fusion styles, it’s not a purist performance from either genre by any means)I hope that you’ll hear in the lyrics and see in the performance, the importance of stillness and silence, of taking time for yourself to realize that you deserve a little care and a break from the hustle and bustle of life from time to time.  Enjoy!

Coming soon: a post on my new Ipad (and why I love it so much!) Also, in 3 weeks, Music Moves turns 1!  Much to be thankful for indeed…

My how time flies!  Halloween has come and gone, Christmas lights are up in some neighborhoods already, and with Thanksgiving approaching, family is on many peoples’ minds.  This is the month that I choose to highlight family and friends in my sessions – themes on on the value and maintenance of important relationships abounds.  Communication is just one part of any healthy relationship.  In the last post I highlighted the teenage population, particularly the types of song lyrics they identify with and the language they use to express their feelings to the world around them.  In this post I’d like to take a look at how we as human beings listen to each other.  I’m a firm believer that in order to be a good communicator, you must not only be good with words, but good with your ears too!

In music, you often hear folks use the phrase “good ear.”   To have a “good ear” usually means that the individual is capable of discerning individual notes and other musical concepts sufficiently without needing the music in front of them – they hear it, they play it.  That intermediate step of reading the music notation isn’t always necessary for someone with a “good ear.”  It’s a skill that you can be born with or learn – it’s something the user possesses.

In life, you’ll rarely hear it solely put that someone “has” good listening skills – you’ll hear the phrase “they’re a good listener.”  Note the more active phrase there – someone can “have” a good ear, but they have to “be” a good listener.  Listening is more active than hearing.  Hearing happens, listening is done.

There are many things musicians do to strengthen their ears -  Music students at major universities actually take entire classes built around the concept of “Aural Skills”.  They practice listening to increasingly complex pieces, notating, labeling, and reproducing what they hear or read, over and over again, in order to strengthen their musical listening skills.  As Music Therapists, we can utilize some of these same concepts to assist our clients in developing real world listening skills. Here are some of my favorite exercises for helping my clients become good listeners:

For Infants/Toddlers – The “Cookie Sheet” Game

Developing good listening skills can start so young and with the simplest activities – as infants and toddlers strengthen their fine motor skills, they drop things.  Eventually they all enter an intentional “dropping” stage, a stage where they’re dropping everything off the edge of their high chairs or taking things out of their toy bins just for the sake of taking them out.  The “Cookie Sheet” Game involves just putting a cookie sheet or drum on the floor in the place where the student is prone to drop things.  When items hit it, they’ll create a fun little sound, and you can react with your own verbal imitation of the sound (“poof!” for soft items or “boom!” for loud ones, for example). This version of the game should be used with students in the incidental stages of “dropping” – once it starts to become an intentional thing, you’ll want to move on to verbally labeling your child’s actions in advance of them dropping them, otherwise you risk this “dropping” game becoming a “throwing” one!  Start to encourage your child to discriminate between two objects, one that makes a loud noise and one that makes a soft sound by first dropping one item and guiding them to visually imitate you with an identical item.  That way you can stay in control of the game, and your child begins to develop an understanding of the concept you’re trying to teach: distinguishing between sounds.

For School Age Kids – the “What’s in my Bag?” Game

Once students are able to start labeling sounds and the things that make them themselves, I like to move on to a little instrument discrimination game – I’ll show kids an array of instruments that all make different sounds.  I’ll set one of each of those kinds of instruments in front of them, and then hide one of each behind a barrier or, as the name of this game suggests, in a bag.  So, the students can see what the instruments look like on the floor in front of them, but they aren’t allowed to touch them.  They are only to point to whichever instrument they think I’m playing once I start making sound from behind the barrier or within the bag.  If they’re right, they get to play that instrument!

Musical Telephone

I’ve mentioned this game before in a previous post – it’s just like that Telephone Game you play as a child, one person starts a rhythm on one side of the room, taps it on the shoulder of the person to one side of them, and that person passes the rhythm down to the person on their other side, and so on, all the way around the circle.  At the end of the rotation you find out if the rhythm that the last person to receive it plays is the same as the one the original sender intended.  Here we start to get to the real crux of being a good listener – really paying attention to what’s being said to you so that you can pass it along to someone else.

From this game (Musical Telephone) I like to move forward into tying listening and talking together with a game like “Echo and Create.” In that game, a student has to accurately repeat a rhythm played to them by one of their peers, and then they have the opportunity to create their own rhythm that another peer will imitate.  It really ties it all together – listening and sharing come together the way they do in real life.  No one lives in a bubble – we all have to communicate, totally, listening and speaking.  Just having a “good ear” is not enough – listening is an active process, and we demonstrate that we are listening by how we respond, verbally or otherwise.

Communication, and how it impacts our relationships with family and friends, is one of my favorite topics for use with my clients.  I’m a natural stickler for communication in my day to day life, and it brings me joy to help others find fresh avenues for communicating with those around them.  Later this month I’ll have the opportunity to attend the American Music Therapy Association‘s conference in Atlanta – Advocacy will be a major theme, with our organization celebrating 2 states that passed Music Therapy Liscensure this year (North Dakota being one of them!)  It’s through effective communication and education of our peers that this has been possible, and I look forward to what I know will be an eventful week of learning and sharing!  Look for blog posts from Atlanta to come soon!

What are your favorite “Communication” based games?  Feel free to share them here or on Twitter!

 

NOTE: in the post below, you’ll find hidden a new video I’ve uploaded for submission to the American Music Therapy Association for their Montage on videos answering the question: What is Music Therapy.  See if you can find it in one of the links in today’s post!

Over the past few weeks I’ve been working on a Song Writing Project with some of my Teen Groups.  This is one of the “Templates” I work from with this population.  Over the course of 6 weeks, we choose and listen to music from a particular genre, discuss what makes it what it is (in this case it was rap music) and what makes a “good song” to listen to, before delving into the studio (I make use of my husband’s home recording equipment – he runs FL Studio, and Sony’s Acid, equipped with Autotune and a variety of other fun tools on his PC) to create our own song or collection of beats, as one particular group opted to do.  Here’s what they determined to be quintessential of “good” rap music:

1.  A Balanced Beat (with a booming bass, but some high sounds too – students talked about the “cool factor” of using what they considered “novelty” instruments like organs to accent the standard kick drum or 808 sound that we’re all accustomed to as a low tone)

2. A Pleasing Vocal Quality – a tone that’s gentle on the ear but clear.

3. “Flow” – this sparked an interesting discussion: just what IS “Flow”?  My students told me that Flow is how everything comes together in Rap Music – the percussion, the melody, the vocals.  It needs to sound like all the pieces fit effortlessly.  They assured me they know when a piece ain’t got Flow!

4. Honest “Real” Language – these were some students’ actual words.  At first they just said “Language,” and when I asked them what they meant, they elaborated that cursing and profanity was “Honest” and “Real.”  I remember sitting back in my chair for a moment and thinking.  I asked “What makes cussing real?”  And we got to talking.   And I got to thinking.  Interestingly enough, other Music Therapists have been talking about this too – I’ve got 9 emails on the topic in my inbox from the Music Therapy Listserv to prove it!  This is a hot topic for a lot of parents and other professionals as well.  We want our students to be able to listen to music that they enjoy and that moves them, but a lot of the Rap Music that makes it out into the mainstream is loaded with profanity and cursing that many people find offensive.  We may only hear a third of it on the radio, but it’s there on Itunes and the CD’s we buy, and it’s being preferred by many teens to over music with cleaner lyrics.  So why?

My students have told me that when you grow up in certain neighborhoods and lifestyles, cursing is part of who you are, and if you make the choice to censor yourself, you make the choice to change who you are for other people, and that makes you less “real.” 

Hmmm….

Am I a fan of profanity? No.  Do I agree with my clients’ beliefs on it making you more “real”?  I don’t know.  Do I believe that there can be songs out there that contain both profanity AND a positive message? YES!

There are some great songs out there with positive messages (some tracks off Eminem’s recent “Recovery” album come to mind here) that contain excess amounts of profanity, but it seems more often than not that it’s used to emphasis the negativity of where the singer has come from and the magnitude of their resolve to change.  My personal belief has always been that profanity draws the focus of people from what you’re saying to how you’re saying it – meaning they listen to your words, but not your message.  I always require of my students that when they’re speaking to me and each other in sessions they find ways of addressing us that are honest while still being respectful of the rules where we are and the fact that some of us might not want to hear profanity.  I find this is a general good skill for them to strengthen: finding multiple ways to say the same thing – to say it effectively and with personal attention to your audience.  That’s what really gets your message heard!

When it comes to music, though, I recognize that sometimes there may not be another song that says what a client needs to say when they feel their own voice isn’t enough.  I have some facilities that have clear cut rules on profanity, and for those placements I adhere to those rules, but when a placement doesn’t have such rules, all I ask when a client presents a song for the group to listen to is that they provide me with a reason why they like it – it can be anything, lyrics, the beat, so long as they can show me they have put conscious thought into what they’re suggesting.  It’s like that old weight-loss tip you hear to put the fork down in between bites of food.  It’s such a little thing, but giving yourself the split second to think – do I need this? – can make the difference between gaining a pound and losing a pound.  It’s all about actively attending and taking the time to listen to your needs, and the needs of those around you.  That’s the ultimate message I try to leave my clients with – I don’t want to bog them down with “my” opinion or “my” feelings.  I want them to form their own and use their own voices while still maintaining an awareness of how they do so and how it affects others.

Whew! A little deep for a Friday post, huh?

I love working with my Teenagers because they make me think about things like this.  They challenge my counseling skills too!  It’s one of those areas of my Music Therapy training I never thought I’d use this much, but I’m glad I do!  I hope that this weekend you’ll take some time to think about the language you use and listen to, and why you use it as well.  If you’ve got kids, use the music they listen to as an opportunity to talk about language, and the powerful tool that it is.

Body language is it’s own thing too – observe this segue in action! – if you’d like to take a break from talking and see some dancing this weekend (ta-da!) check out the 12 Houses Bellydance “Hafla” this Saturday (Oct 29th) starting at 5:30pm with free food, and dancing from artists across the states of North Dakota and Minnesota (including yours truly!) starting at 7pm – it looks to be a great time! 2017 Demers Ave (next to Dakota Boy’s Ranch).  If you’re more in the mood for listening, UND’s Music Department has tons of great stuff coming up this week – check out their web calendar for more information.

ps: did you find the video hidden in today’s post? :-)

Whatever you do this weekend, be mindful of what you say and how you say it – with your voice or your body.   It’s worth the effort!

My dad used to tell me there were always two questions to ask about anything: first, what it is, and second, why it matters.  Once you know those things, true learning can take place.  We talk about many things on this blog, the “what” of music therapy – the many areas of music and wellness that qualified professionals use to help many different populations and kinds of people improve their qualities of life- but I don’t often talk about what music means to ME and why I love my job so much.  So, here it is, the “why it matters” of Music Therapy, from my perspective:

1. Music is accessible.  Today I attended a performance of Egyptian Music with my students at the ND School for the Deaf.  When we got to meet the performers after the show, many of them expressed concern that the students weren’t enjoying themselves because they couldn’t hear it.  I reminded them of how multi-sensory music is – the performance took place in an elementary gymnasium with all of us sitting on the floor, so not only the volume but the sensation of rhythm through the floor was very present, and the kids enjoyed seeing instruments they’d never seen before and learning about a culture they’d never before experienced.  This leads me to my second reason why Music Therapy matters:

2. Music brings people together.  Just as music is capable of being experienced by anyone, anywhere, music can also unify people.  At one point during this morning’s performance, several students were chosen from the audience to play a little rhythm section along to one song.  A student from NDSD was selected and given a basic rhythm in 4/4 time that I walked her through counting in her head before the song started, and then sat back to watch her work.  In those 3 minutes she was not a deaf child – she was just a child making music with her peers.  They were all equal, and they were all loved by the people watching them perform, attention you could tell they relished throughout the rest of the day, attention that every individual needs from time to time to feel valued and nourished.

3. That leads to my 3rd reason why Music Therapy matters and why I love my job.  Music is inspiring - there are things I see my students and clients do to music that they don’t do with anything or anyone else, and it is so moving to be there when that happens.  I feel honored and humbled in the presence of these great moments because I realize that I am only a small part of the equation – the power of music is in the tool itself, I just have the training to safely and effectively wield what has essentially always been there.

Below you’ll find a little clip of just one such moment with a student that I think encompasses all of the above things that make Music Therapy matter in my life and the lives of my clients: in the clip, a student and I share in a little musical dialogue after singing a version of “Old Joe Clark” many Music Therapists know as the “Play your Instruments” song.  This is a student I’ve had for quite a few years now, and she’s come to expect that song at the end of sessions, but this day we did something a little different at the end, and the “conversation” shared between her and I is something she doesn’t typically engage in otherwise!

Click here to view the clip. Apologies up front for the lack of camera focus at the start – it fixes itself about 10 seconds in…

This is a student that speaks in one to two word sentences and rarely engages in a conversation beyond yes or no answers with another individual.  The music here serves as her motivator, inspiring her to communicate with me.  The syllable “La la la” that we sing is accessible, it’s easy for her to grasp and repeat and eventually she becomes an equal partner in building the conversational relationship, alternating between responding to me and initiating my responses – I truly wish the video could have gone on longer (the battery cut out halfway through a moment that continued for 10 more minutes) – it’s magical!

That’s what Music Therapy is to me and why it matters – those moments with clients when you are able to communicate without barriers, build relationships, and experience the unexpected.  I invite you to do the same, wherever you are, whatever you’re doing, in this busy time of year.  Here’s what’s going on in Grand Forks this month:

Sunday, Oct 9th: Benefit concert in honor of Mark Solberg, featuring local choirs from the Grand Forks area – click here for more info – come celebrate the life of a student truly motivated by music!

Saturday, Oct 22nd: the next 12 Houses Drum Circle, 7pm at 2017 Demers Ave.  Bring a drum or just bring yourself (kids welcome too!) Instruments are available for even the most novice players, come find your own inner musical spirit!

Saturday, Oct 29th: the 3rd Quarterly 12 Houses Hafla, a FREE, family friendly event featuring Traditional and Tribal-Style Middle Eastern dance.  This event will be Halloween themed, featuring a Bollywood rendition of Thriller that will be a sure crowd pleaser!  Click here for more info – hope to see you there or back here soon for pictures and videos from all these great events!

Told you it was a busy month!  Coming up soon on Music Moves: a return to some Practical, Take-Home Tips.

Until then: Be musical, be well

You may find yourself reading this post’s title and thinking “a what?” To which I would reply:

“Exactly!”

In a previous post I mentioned that I was a kinesthetic learner – I learn by doing.  As you may know, there are other ways of learning too: visual, auditory, kinesthetic – we all learn differently.  Today I’d like to share with you a game I like to use to teach a variety of concepts (like rhythm and following directions) that is accessible to each of those kinds of learners.  I call it the “This is a…” Game!  Some of you may know it as “This is a Pen” and have learned it at a Theatre Camp like I did.  In essence it is a verbal passing game like telephone that is carried out by one person turning to the individual next to them, interacting with a message that gets passed around a circle, but instead of just one phrase it’s a whole dialogue that goes like this:

“This is a pen.”

“A what?”

“A pen.”

“A what?”

“A pen!

Oh! A pen!

The person asking the “what”s then turns to the person on the other side of them and initiates the same dialogue, and so it passes around the circle.  I like to start with this original incarnation of the game and then move to just playing the dialogue in rhythm, like this:

This is the rhythm we would use to play/say these phrases on a Drum

First we all play it together on our drums (or sticks, or whatever instrument we like, but all of us on the same one), then we start the game again, with one person playing the rhythm to their neighbor.  This can be done to achieve a variety of goals, such as:

1. Waiting and Following Directions - this is the most important part of this game – everyone can’t play all at once!  You have to wait your turn and listen for the rhythms being played to you.

2. Eye contact – looking at your neighbor so they know you’re “talking” to them – this is big for my teenagers and students who are Deaf – even those that are Visually Impaired learn to turn towards individuals they are speaking to.

3. Boundaries/Expression of Comfort Level – sometimes I will have students tap the rhythm they intend to “say” to their neighbor on that person’s drum. This can be a really uncomfortable thing for some people, so I ask that they tell their neighbor what level of playing on their drum (edge, center, or not at all) they are comfortable with.  If everyone is comfortable playing on each other’s drums as well as having their own drums played on, the game can actually become more of a motor challenge and produce many a good laugh!

4. Focus – the next level of this game is to have more than one person in the circle starting the dialogue at the same time.  This can only happen if Eye Contact, Listening, and Boundary control is consistent across the circle.  Eventually you can build up to everyone playing both dialogues back and forth – if you do this by playing on each other’s drums, it can be quite fun!

5. Concept Development - at the School for the Deaf in North Dakota, not every student is able to successfully participate in Music Education, so concepts like Quarter Notes and Eighth notes are not well understood.  This month I’m focusing on introducing the basics to my Middle School students there, and today we used this game to cement our understanding of how to notate rhythms.  I showed them the rhythms first, then we added the dialogue.

So… there are lots of ways you can play this game, even backwards as I did in Music at NDSD today!  You can check out the original “This is a Pen” game and other games like it in the John Fierabend Book of Echo Songs – they’re great fun across age ranges and ability levels.  Try a game of your own today!

Like the games in this post?  Check out some of my other favorite musical games.

 

 

 

 

 

Hello all!  Earlier this week I mentioned that I’d be taking part in a blog challenge put out by one of our affiliate sites, Music Sparks.  The theme?  Blue.  So simple and yet so complex at the same time, much like the musical style that comes to mind.  Most easily recognized in 12 bar “AAB” form, Blues as we know them best today are both a music form and a genre, derived from distinct chordal structures, tonal patterns, and subject matter of old African American Music.  The Blues are direct, the Blues are emotional, but above all, the Blues are accessible.  They’re easy on the ears (for the most part) and their lyrics have staying power – people across generational and cultural divides can all relate to Blues lyrics.  That’s why I like to use the Blues as springboards for working with my Adolescent clients.

Adolescents and Music often go hand and hand, whether we’re consistently aware of it or not.  Listening to, playing and writing music can often be a sanctuary for teens – it allows them to process all of their feelings about school, their peers, and their families with all of their emotions, through tempo, pitch and sheer decibel level (gotta feel that bass!).  So it’s not too surprising that when I ask students about their favorite kinds of music that I often get more personal information from them than I would have gotten just asking about their home life directly.  Who and what they listen to speaks volumes (literally!) – These kids have a lot to say, and Music can help them say it!  The challenge is reigning all that projection in.  Without the proper supports I find teenagers can be a bit like that X-men First Class character, Havoc: all power and no focus.  It can come across as chaotic and get written off as unproductive when the potential for so much more is there.  So, I use the Blues to help students isolate their ideas and work on developing them more effectively.  Here are a few elements of the Blues that I use to do that:

Lyrical Form (for our purposes, “AAB”):  Before we even look at chords or melody, I ask students to come up with a single phrase based on a question like “What’s bothering you today?” or “How do you feel about ______ ?”  I ask that they keep it short, even limiting them to a specific number of syllables if necessary.  We write that phrase down once, then again on the separate line and label both lines “A.”  After the two “A”s we write a “B” phrase.  Something that follows up on “A” but doesn’t necessarily introduce any new ideas, just a different way of saying what’s already been said.  For instance:

A:    “I’m so tired today – didn’t get any sleep last night”

A:    “I’m so tired today – didn’t get any sleep last night”

B:    “Tossing and turning til the morning – All I wanna do now is shut my eyes”

If students are feeling particularly uninspired, sometimes we will pull up Google Images on a computer, type a random word and then choose a single image to describe in order to create lines for our song (this sparked a story song about loneliness one week – can take you further than you think!) Creating simple lyrics like this helps students practice different ways of phrasing and provides an opportunity to talk about how one way of saying something might be more appropriate or more helpful than another – an important life lesson!

Rhythm and Melody: next we look at how we might say or sing the lyrics.  What’s nice about the AAB format that we use is that there’s no wrong way to to this – a student that’s more vocally inclined may want to get really technical about what beats they start the phrase on, what their pitches are, and how they emphasize specific syllables.  Others might just want to have a little guitar riff with spaces built in where they just say each phrase without any real rhythmic or melodic emphasis.  Either of those works just fine, so long as students make a conscious decision about which one they’re doing and give it their best effort (another life lesson!)

Chord structure: early in working with my clients, I might tell them not to worry about this part – I might come in with a chord set already chosen, or perhaps few templates of traditional Blues progressions that I can play through and offer students a choice, or we might take the time as a group to learn a few chords to create our own guitar progression.  The sky’s the limit!

I find that after a day of Blues writing, the pressure is off of students to be Eminem and create complex rhymes and thoughts on the first try – the pressure is also off of them to do anything too emotionally revealing.  Blues can be funny too!  I remember a class a few years back that wrote a whole progression about Tacos – it was a really fun day, and allowed the staff working at the facility I was serving to see their students in a different light.  Even the most broody, oppositional student was participating appropriately that day – that song, that day, didn’t have to be about the tough stuff – we just cut loose.  Everyone needs to do that now and then!

So, cut loose today – have some fun creating nonsense lyrics to a song you know.  Blues form or not, popular music today has it’s own structure familiar to Western Music listeners, and many of them have lyrics and rhythms that are pretty easy to follow and relate to.  Who knows, you might just find that singing the Blues never felt so good!